Hi, I’m Lilia!

I consider myself an erotic explorer first and foremost.

I’m also a devoted student of Tantra, an independent sex and relationship scholar, and a writer of unflinching accounts of deep love, potent longing, and finding oneself while seeking connection.

I’ve always known sex could be deeper and more transcendent than anything we were sold. At nineteen I was underlining passages from Mantak Chia and trying to convince my boyfriend to try pranayama during sex. Most couples settle for “good enough”, but I live for lovemaking that feels like a portal to another realm.

My fascination has pulled me around the world and through decades of study in sacred sexuality, somatic practice, and relationship alchemy, to seek the truth, single-mindedly fixated on what’s possible through bringing eros and our vulnerable truth to light.

I carried my flame through the numb years of a disconnected marriage and divorce, and let it guide me to the most alive, soul-shaking partnership of my life… deep into a sacred sexuality journey that fuels my joy and expansion every day.

I write what I live. I share the transmissions that have blown my mind wide open… from Tantric wisdom, to uncomfortable truths about polarity in modern relationships, to the science of sexuality, the practices that awaken the body, and the kind of communication that transforms love.

In my world, sex and intimacy aren’t side dishes, they’re the pulse that nourishes everything else.