L I L I A E V E R
Erotic explorer and writer.
Transcendent sex and lasting passion through presence, depth, and truth.
T H E E R O T I C V A U L T
A collection of five intimate voice notes for those who want to go deeper.
Transmissions from my erotic life, stories I don’t share anywhere else, and my thoughts on what it takes to have the erotic connection, liberation, and pleasure we crave.
P U B L I C A T I O N
My journal, Come Deeply Alive: Transmissions on Erotic Transcendence answers the question: what’s possible when we move deeper into the experience of our bodies, our love, and our eros, instead of searching for what’s next, what’s more, or what we’re supposed to do?
You’ll find:
Visceral accounts of what sex feels like when focus moves from future to present, from goal to goalless, from fantasy to truth.
My perspectives on modern sex and relationship norms.
The emotional, psychological, and spiritual architecture that makes ongoing passion and erotic expression possible.
Practices I use to continually bring me most alive and nurture my personal eros.
Journal entries on prioritizing truth and love with my partner, and the times we get stuck.
If you’re living - or longing for - an erotically transcendent life, join me.
P H I L O S O P H Y
Every moment holds an opportunity.
To drift toward distraction, numbness, fear, and escape,
or, to choose presence, aliveness, sensitivity, and depth.
If you wish to touch the sublime with a lover,
claim that opportunity together.
Walking through the endless doorway,
ever deeper into truth.
This is the path to ecstatic, soul-shaking partnership.
The kind that fuels a life of ecstasy, pleasure, and discovery.
O R I G I N
I have always longed for lovemaking that feels like a portal to another realm.
With hippie-artists for parents, and a counter-culture spirit that stretches as far back as I can remember, at nineteen I was underlining passages from Mantak Chia’s Taoist sexual manuals, and trying to convince my first boyfriend to do pranayama in bed. I knew that sex could be so much more than what we’ve been sold by Hollywood, porn, and puritanical religion.
I carried my flame of longing, quietly, through years of people-pleasing sexual performance and numbness to my body. I found myself in a marriage to a wonderful man, but in a dynamic that lacked presence, and subsequently, a divorce.
Once I began listening to my longing, I let it carry me to the most alive, heart-soaring romance of my life… and deep into a shared sacred sexuality journey that fuels my joy and expansion every day.
I’m an erotic explorer first and foremost.
I’m a devotee to the Tantric path, and a writer of unflinching accounts of intimacy that feeds the soul. I’ve traveled the world in many years of study in Eastern philosophy, sexual and somatic embodiment practice, and relationship science.
In my writing, I share the transmissions that have blown me wide open: timeless Tantric wisdom, uncomfortable realities about polarity in modern relationships, my thoughts on the latest sexuality research, the practices that awaken the body, and the kind of communication that transforms love.
In my world, sex and intimacy aren’t side dishes, they’re the pulse that everything else lives on.
P R I V A T E W O R K
The erotic life we long for is rare indeed. To even let oneself feel the desire is bold.
When the right people come along (rare and bold), I work privately with one couple at a time, as a personal guide to transcendent sex and love.